- Witnessing to the Joy of Love: Reflection Guide
- MY FAMILY HOME (Introduction and Part I My Family Home: A Place to Encounter the Living Christ)
- GENDER MATTERS
- PURITY MATTERS:
BLESSING OF COUPLE BY PARENTS PRIOR TO SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE
Note: This blessing may be modified as necessary due to family structure and situation. If you would like some assistance with this please contact Deborah Larmour, 306-717-2756 or email firstname.lastname@example.org .
(The following is an explanation of the ceremony, often given by a godparent or relative.)
Glory be to Jesus Christ!
SLAVA ICYCY XRYCTU!!
Ladies & Gentlemen!
Note: wherever ‘bride and groom’ appear insert names.
The ceremony you are about to witness and be a part of, dates back for many generations. It is a meaningful, spiritual and beautiful ceremony. For those reasons it has been preserved and is continued to the present day, in the Ukrainian tradition.
There comes a time for every creature and every human being, when it must leave the comfort and safety of its nest, and go forth in the world to seek and fulfill its destiny in life.
This young man and woman, Bride and Groom, will also be leaving the security and protection they have felt, and leave to embark on a journey that will take them a lifetime to complete. This is a journey into a new state of life, the state of Holy Matrimony.
And though they will return many times to their parent’s homes, their prime responsibility will no longer be to their parents, but to each other, and the family God may choose to give them.
As they prepares for this journey, bride and groom, pause to thank their parents for the love, devotion and concern that went into their upbringing. They will also receive the blessing of their parents, as the marriage is not just the joining of two individuals but two families.
The bread or kolach that the parents bless the couple with, the same bread that parents share with their children to nourish them, is symbolic of the bread that God sent his people in the desert when they were in need. They bless them with it, that they may never find themselves in need or want.
Decorated with the living plant, the meert(myrtle) symbolizes the vitality of youth and the hope and trust that one generation places in the generation following it. This symbol is particularly significant given the knowledge that it will require all the vitality, faithfulness and determination that they are capable of, to make the Sacrament of matrimony truly work, in order to give it the dignity that God meant it to have.
The salt, a mineral of great value, in biblical times, more precious than gold, symbolizes prosperity. Their parent(s) bless the couple with this that they may prosper, remembering that these are God’s gifts to them, to be used for the common good and the betterment of mankind.
Bride and Groom, may this blessing always remind you of your parents, for in you they see a continuation of their own lives, and most importantly a continuation of values and ideals they instilled in you.
May you fulfill that HOPE and TRUST that is passed on to you today.
Bride and Groom now receive the blessing.
Slava Icycy Chrysty!! Glory be to Jesus Christ!
Note: the roles of mother and father can be fulfilled by one parent if the other is unavailable or deceased.
(The couple kneels before the parents of the Bride–they bow before them, the Bride takes each of her parent’s hands kisses their hands and asks for their blessing on their marriage.)
Mother: This woman, our daughter, kneels before God, and the Holy Icon of Mary the Theotokos.
Father: She also comes before us her parents, family from near and far and in front of all the dear friends who are present.
Together: We bless you Bride and accept into our family the husband, Groom, you have chosen and will love him as one of our own.
Mother: Receive now the Icon of Mary with our prayer that you will both grow in the virtues of faith, hope and most especially love. (Hand the Icon to the bride).
Father: Receive this Bread for it holds our hope for a lifetime of ‘life giving’ love. (Hands bread to the groom who also holds a cup for salt that the Father pours some salt into.) Receive this salt with our prayer that you will be blessed with prosperity and an abundance of all good things, for your good and to share with those who are less fortunate than yourselves.
Together: With this blessing we send you on your way to receive the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony.
(The couple kneels before the Parent(s) of the Groom–they bow before him, the Groom then takes his Parent (s) hands kisses them and asks for their blessing on their marriage.)
Mother: This man, my son, kneels before God, and the Holy Icon of Christ our Lord.
Father: He also comes before me his father, family from near and far and in front of all the dear friends who are present.
Together: We bless you Groom and accept into our family the wife, Bride, whom you have chosen and will love her as one of our own.
Mother: Receive now the Icon of Christ with my prayer that you will both grow in the virtues of faith, hope and most especially love. (Hand the Icon to the groom).
Father: Receive this Bread for it holds my hope of for a lifetime of ‘life giving’ love. (Hands bread to the bride who also has a cup for salt which the Father pours some salt into.) Receive this salt with my prayer that you will be blessed with prosperity and an abundance of all good things, for your good and to share with those who are less fortunate than yourselves.
Together: With these blessings we send you on your way to receive the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony.